the silence feeds the shameI’m so grateful to be here guest-blogging on “The Hurt Healer” to share some of my story and to hopefully reach other survivors out there and to let them know that they are not alone and that they can heal and recover from all forms of abuse.  I started my Facebook page “Follow Your Song” to bring Inspiration, Encouragement and Hope to survivors of all forms of abuse including, but not limited to Childhood sexual Abuse/rape, Domestic Violence and Narcissistic abuse.

I am a Childhood Sexual Abuse/rape, Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse survivor. I know how alone one can feel and I wanted to reach out to other survivors and create a community of love and support where survivors can heal and recover together. A kind of place where one can be validated and empathized with, upon which many may be something they have never received before and especially to those that were raised in abusive households by a Narcissist parent, because Narcissistic parents are incapable of love, validation and empathy.

I personally was raised by a Narcissistic mother and then later married a Narcissist, which is actually fairly common and I find a lot of it within the Follow Your Song community. There are many sexual abuse survivors in the community as well as Domestic Violence survivors. Also, many survivors who like me who may have not even realize they are in, or have been in a Domestic Violence situation, because many like me didn’t realize that Narcissistic Abuse is Domestic Violence.

My mission is to raise awareness about all forms of abuse and to bring survivors together and help them realize that healing and recovery is possible and that there is life on the other side of recovery. I want to help people understand that life can be good and to hopefully spread the message to survivors that “They are not to blame and that abuse is never their fault, ever.” Survivors need to be reminded of that, they really do since survivors get blamed so much for the abuse and that they can start to believe that they actually deserved it or are to blame for it.

One of the first steps for survivors is finding themselves again, practicing self-love and getting some support is very important. They can also utilize different tools and healing modalities, like EFT Tapping which is an excellent tool for trauma recovery associated with abuse and was a game changer for me in healing my PTSD. EFT has helped thousands of others recover from the effects of abuse and trauma.  Some other tools that are extremely helpful in recovery are mirror-work, affirmations, practicing Law of Attraction, raising one’s vibration, journaling, gratitude and Meditation.

Meditation is key in recovery and can hopefully be added as a daily practice for those in recovery. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of meditation in recovery and healing, as well as the role it plays in keeping your vibration high and having access to your higher self and inner guidance. Meditation and the tools mentioned above were all pivotal in my recovery, as well as many others and can be used as part of the ongoing process of recovery, because as the saying goes, “when it comes to recovery work you never graduate”.

I also want to discuss the mind/body connection, which while not fully understood, absolutely plays a role in recovery. Thoughts become things and our beliefs that were passed on to us in childhood can, and do affect us all the way into adulthood. If we have been taught that unacceptable or even abusive behaviors are acceptable, that then becomes our normal and we allow it, because it is what has always been done and becomes the norm. Once we change those beliefs, our reality begins to change. Abuse in any form wreaks havoc on the mind and body, and as we heal those old destructive beliefs, we can heal the mind and body.

When we connect spiritually to our higher self and our inner guidance through mediation, we can begin to heal our mind, body and life. When we quiet our mind through meditation and allow the connection with our higher self to be heard, we can then listen to the guidance from our higher self and raise our personal vibration through our meditation practice. Through that practice, the people who which to control, harm and abuse us will fall out of our lives. They will no longer be a vibrational match to us.  As it is said in Prayer, “you speak to god, in meditation God speaks to you”.

Little by little survivors will start to find themselves again and rebuild themselves and their lives. There is freedom and recovery on the other side of Abuse. It may take years to get there, but it is not impossible and can be done. Survivors can grow and heal and come out stronger than ever before. It may not be easy, but it is possible. A better life can truly be ahead for survivors once they free themselves from the abuse.

I have created a website and FB Page at “Follow Your Song” which offers Inspiration, Encouragement and Hope to Survivors of all forms of Abuse including Narcissistic Abuse, as well as a  page of recovery resources and a YouTube channel that I had just started that has Tapping for Abuse recovery topics.

If you can relate to the information above, I want you to know you are not alone and that you can heal and recover. Wishing you well on your Healing Journey – Anne-Marie Wiesman

Anne-Marie WisemanAnne-Marie Wiesman is an EFT Practitioner and Hypnotherapist specializing in Recovery of Childhood Sexual abuse/rape, Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse. She is a survivor of all of the above and the founder of the website Follow Your Song. Anne-Marie was raised by a Narcissistic mother, her biological father was a violent alcoholic and she was married to an abusive, alcoholic Narcissist for 10 years. Through the use of EFT Tapping and other healing modalities she was able to overcome the effects of the abuse as well as the trauma/PTSD and begin her healing journey. She created Follow Your Song to bring Inspiration, Encouragement and Hope to survivors of all forms of abuse. Her mission is to help other survivors to know that they are not alone, that help is available and they can heal and recover. Her hope is that survivors will utilize the information, tools and resources available on her website and blog to help them in their recovery. Her goal is to create a community of survivors who can support, learn and heal together.